Crabs in a Bucket Meet Network Marketing
Let us know if you can relate to any of the following; Working so hard only to find out people aren’t so happy for your success. Others, upline, downline, cross line determined to pull you down. Or, determined to make it happen and people become determined to see you fail instead? Now, there are a variety of things we could call this — but we think crabs in a bucket mentality fits quite nicely.
What is Crabs in a Bucket Mentality?
Great question. This mentality, also known as ‘crabs in the bucket’, is a metaphor that describes a person’s pattern of thinking specifically to how one tries to either hinder the success of another or undermine one’s achievement by finding faults and flaws in the other person’s win.
People with crab mentality often follow a thought pattern that if they can’t have something, neither can other people. Just like a bucket full of crabs — some will try to climb up to freedom but the others left behind will just pull them down.
Today, we want to share with you 7 Tips on how to deal with people who have the ‘crabs in a bucket’ mentality. These people may or may not be part of your business but doesn’t make them any less difficult to deal with.
In some cases these people may also be the ones refer to as negative Nancy or Debbie Downer. Regardless of your level of success, they exist. These tips will apply to the newest network marketer starting out, the seasoned leaders and even those instances of these crabs outside of the industry all together.
7 Tips on Dealing with the Crabs in a Bucket
#1 Maintain your Optimism, your Zest, your Passion
When faced with these crabs it can often causes anxiety and self-doubt. However, it’s a natural response to stressful situations involving other people. Luckily, you can ‘fight back’. We’re sure you’re wondering how, right? Just stay genuine and think positive. And if there are times when you can’t find a single piece of optimism, look back and remember why you started. Plug into supportive communities or accountability partners. Fighting negative with negative, never wins.
#2 Be Authentically you
You don’t have to please everyone and you absolutely don’t have to change who you are, just to be accepted by other people. Staying true to what you are and focused on and your goals without minding other’s opinion will not only boost your self – confidence and posture but it will also help you become a better person for the right people.
#3 Appreciate a Small Circle
Find the right people and love on them. You don’t have to face everything alone (and shouldn’t) and having good friends and support systems will remind you to be strong, be yourself and to not give up. This is the best coat of armor that you can have against the crabs who may not value your time, your worth — or you.
#4 Be in Love with what you do
There are times when you will feel tired and rejected or let down because of what others do and say ‘about’ you. However, you don’t have to throw yourself a pity part and invite in self-doubt just because some people aren’t happy about what you have achieved. The best response to haters and crabs is simple..
Love what you do. Celebrate your successes – big and small. Don’t just show it, live it. Walk your talk.
#5 Let your Success, Brand, Consistency Speak for Itself
A lot of the time, people with a crabs in a bucket mentality seek out the hardworking entrepreneurs who truly deserve their success. Although not true, their words may hurt you or those you care about.
But remember this; your success will naturally protect you from these toxic people. In fact, you don’t have to do anything. Just do what you have to do and let your accomplishments do the talking. Keep on, keeping’ on.
#6 Keep Setting the Right Example
Are you familiar with the quote ‘take the stones that other people throw at you and use them to build a monument’?
You don’t have to throw rocks at people who have been throwing pebbles at you. Continue to lead and be a good example and counter negativity with your optimism. Be a good example even to others who don’t approve of your success; be a great example to those who are lost in their insecurities and teach them how to handle pressure with grace. When you demonstrate this type of posture and perseverance, those ‘following’ you, will too.
#7 You will Stumble, maybe even Fail – but Learn to Accept it’s Part of the Journey
No matter how successful you are, there will always be a time when you’ll experience failure and people with crabs in a bucket mentality will use every opportunity to say things like ‘I told you so. Or, they linger just to pull you down – to a lower place of failure.
Should you let them win? No of course not. You already know the answer to that.
What you need to remember however is this; failure is a vital part of success. Failure and how you deal with it will determine how strong you and your ‘why’ are. Have faith in yourself and believe that all things are possible.
Stand up. It’s never too late to start again.
Final Thoughts on those Crabs in a Bucket
Don’t be one. Be the person who sets the better example. Revisit the basics — Solidify why you are doing this. Because listen, when you are so passionate about something and your belief is at an all-time high, you won’t even notice the crabs.
It’s as though it’s a natural repellent. However, when that self-doubt or negativity creeps in it will have a whole ton of company – and guess what? They are not invited!
We would love your thoughts or tips on dealing with those crabs and what has ignoring or avoiding them done for your business or even, your life.
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